My money is gone. my roommate is a known thief. What do I do?
I had my purse lying on the table when I can home last night. Earlier that day I went to buy something at the pharmacy, I check my wallet and notice I only have one sinlge $50 bill. I could of sworn I had two equaling $100. I shrugged it off thinking I must have spent it. I spend exactly $5 and get back two $20 and a $5 bill. This morning I go to buy a cup of coffee. and all I have is a $20 bill.
I live 5 other roommates. I trust every single one of them with my life, except one that just moved in. He’s been arrested for heroin, marijuana,and been accused of stealing numerous times.
I’m currently an hour away from home, absolutely fuming, and I don’t know what to do.
Of course, I’m going to confront him, but he’s just going to deny it.
and then what if, I’m wrong? That would be the absolute worst.
I can’t just kick him out, the other four would have to agree with me.
Which they probably would if one of the other four wasn’t his older sister.
That’s my story. Now what do I do????
Edit: I’m not calling the police. I am entirely anti-police. Also there is not enough proof to do so.
There are other various reason, but police are not coming to my house.
report her. if she is KNOWN thief
Call the police and make a report.
I’d talk to all ur other room mates first, ask them if they have taken it or if they know what might have happened to the money, if they say they don’t know anything about it, ask who they think might be the culprit. If they all say the ‘thief’ would have taken it i’d ask ur friends if they want someone like that living under their roof, likely they won’t so tell the ‘thief’ to pack her bags and bolt. I’d make sure ur 100% positive its this person though otherwise that would be sh¡t!
Time to get a new place. When you agree to room with a thief, you can kiss your belongings goodbye. Practically, there’s nothing you can do about getting your money back. Explain to your roommates why you’re moving out, get a new place and wish them luck. Anything more complicated than that and you will get screwed again and again. So forget the subtleties, no point in confronting him or your other roomies, no use in lamenting how you’ve suffered and been victimized, just stop supporting a druggie thief and get out – today if possible. It’s as simple as that.
Move the fuck out, you can’t trust druggies or thieves.
tell police&kick her ass out
Call all of the roommates together including him and confront them all together. Tell them what happened and explain that its not good enough. If the others are trust worthy they won’t want to think you’re blaming them and they might be able to help. His sister obviously knows what he is like, so she may even confront him afterwards. I DON’T THINK you should just go and confront him personally, as you have no proof!
A similar thing happened to me! I had a roommate and we were very good friends, but she was bad to “borrow” without asking and never give anything back. She did not only do this to me, but her other friends as well. We had a major blow-up over another issue one week and while i was gone for the weekend, she moved out and took massive amounts of my stuff with her – she didn’t even see anything wrong with that! I had to message her and call for months to finally get about 90% of my stuff back – she still has the bottom to my favorite bathing suit and it’s been almost 2 years.
My advice? Absolutely, you MUST confront him. It’s going to be awkward. But you MUST. You never can tell; he may be suffering from a disorder. Or he might be a shallow, selfish, immature brat who never developed a sense of boundaries or consideration for others and therefore, feels entitled to everything that captures his interest, like your money. If nobody ever calls him out on this, he’ll just continue.
Got NO PROOF!
Calm the F**k down!
Think your missing $50 and IT MUST be that new roommate with the rumored past.
Of Course you should have proof when confronting!